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You know he’s not the one, so why are you tripping? (PART 1)

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You know He’s not the one, so why are you tripping? (PART 1)

Going through a break up is probably one of the worst things to go through. I have been through many break ups, whether it be an actual relationship or just a fling that didn’t go how I planned. After the break up, I would normally entice my sadness and depression by listening to sad love songs that complemented my situation. Why do we that? Why do we do that to ourselves? It is because we want to continue to control what has happened. We want to hear someone tell us what we want to hear, so we turn up the wrong music, wrong advice and negativity, turn down God’s direction, and suffocate ourselves with false hopes.

Let me ask you this: Why do you want him to come back? So he can cheat on you some more and hit you three months later? Why are you looking desperate by sending one too many texts, calls, and emails? So you can go back and settle in your comfort zone? Why do you want to make yourself look foolish, “In the name of love”? Girlfriend, when one door shuts, another one opens. It may not be next month, or next year, but when a person exits your life, whether you walked them to the exit door, or they left you, God will be there to pick up the bad romance pieces and paint you a brand new love life. You have to trust in Him. If He told you numerous times that man was not for you, yet you insisted on staying and playing the repentance game. You know the game when you know you are about to go against God (sex, drinking, smoking, lying, whatever it may be but in this case I’m going to say SEX), yet you do it anyway because you will “REPENT” after. Let me tell you, that is only going to lead you to a couple of places and it is not to JESUS. You have to trust God, even when it hurts, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when you have no idea what to do after you do what God has told you to do, trust Him.

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Brittany La’Vell

BuildingABeautifulSoul@gmail.com

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A beautiful time to be Single.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 “He has made everything beautiful in its time…”Favim.com-1013072Everything is beautiful in its time… When you read the word and actually study and meditate on it, you will see that God tells us everything we NEED to know. It’s literally in the simplest form of words. We get so caught up in the supernatural power of the word that we miss the simplicity of it. I say this because things we stress ourselves about searching answers for can most likely be found in God’s word. That  just hit me when I was thinking about my singleness and how lately I have been obsessing over being in a relationship. Instead of enjoying my time as being a single woman, I would wonder why was I still single. I would consume my mind and over think about how, when, and with whom. It came to a point where I would trick myself into thinking I did not want one but deep down knowing I was only lying to myself. I started chasing people but after failed attempts of getting into a relationship, I finally decided it was time to go to God. I knew this was not healthy for my soul and frankly, I just wanted to be straight up with God with my desires.I figured if I told God what I really wanted and  stop trying to mind play myself, He would get me together; whether that be transforming my desires or actually sending someone my way. Soon after, one day I was reading my bible and stumbled across Ecclesiastes 3:11, which stated, “He has made everything beautiful in its time…”, and instead of skimming through it like normally, something made me stare and really meditate one those eight words…

He has made everything beautiful in its time…

This time, this current moment, is a time that God has made. This is a beautiful time, a time that I should be embracing and enjoying because God has made it. He knows what He is doing, He is the creator. Why on earth am I worrying about something that is not in my control? Why am I so anxious to skim through this time in my life, when I should be taking it a day at a time? Why was I trying to manipulate His timing, by chasing after people trying to rush love? I have come to the acceptance that this is MY time. A beautiful time that should be  spent deepening my relationship with God. I obviously needed more time with God so He could help fix my mind on things that were important, like getting my life in order before trying to bring someone else in.

When we try to manipulate God’s timing, we are only hurting ourselves, and setting ourselves back. When we become impatient with being single, we start to chase and we all know chasing people is not cute, and normally leads to heartache. We start to open our hearts before opening our mouths to God in prayer to make sure it’s actually our time to be open to someone else romantically. Spending more time with God when you are single will complete you and fill you with whatever it is you think you need from someone else. The reason we chase someone or become anxious for a relationship is because we are lacking something within that no human can fill. We think they can but we end up with expectations that we really should not have in the first place. We have to build ourselves a life that would be okay to live without a relationship. Relationships, any relationship should add to our lives, not consume our lives.Quotes_not_happy_being_single_relationship_fb_cover

God will use you while you are single to help build your character and transform your heart’s desires, in general and for a relationship. Focus on bettering yourself through God so that you will have the right intentions of wanting someone romantically. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship, we just have to make sure it’s for the right reasons, and not to fill a void.

Enjoy your single time! Do not neglect this time because you cannot get it back. Enjoy YOU! Be that special person in your life. You cannot fathom what God has in store for you. So please, do not rush time and try to take things into your own hands because if it’s not in God’s will, it will not last. Trust God in all that He does. Appreciate the time God has given you to be single and free. Build a life, and work on your goals. The only things you should be chasing in life are God and your dreams.

Remember, if you cannot enjoy your own company being single, how on earth will you enjoy the company of another? He has made everything beautiful in its time, and this is a beautiful time to be happy. Trust God.

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 ❤

Brittany La’Vell

BuildingABeautifulSoul@gmail.com

Instagram// Twitter // Facebook

A couple of updates:

  1. Soon and very soon we will be starting our weekly newsletters via email. If you haven’t already SIGN UP here and you will be added to our Newsletters List.
  2. I have created a YouTube Channel to bring my posts to life as well as having fashion talk/videos. Once I finished beautifying it I will place a link where you can subscribe to there to.
  3. Connect and follow me on Instagram/Twitter (@BrittanyLaVell), and facebook (facebook.com/brittanylavell), for frequent inspirational words.
  4. I am open to guest posts and/or collaborations on BABS. Email me if interested or for any questions at buildingabeautifulsoul@gmail.com.

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