A godly relationship is possible to have in a world full of toxic examples.
But here is the thing, you have to work for it!
You have to put the effort in.
You have to give up your old mindsets and ways when it comes to relationships.
Don”t buy into the false perfect picture.
The road will not be sunny skies every day and your one day husband will not come to you in a perfect package.
We are all a work in progress. And, that’s another thing … There is this false perfect picture painted of what a godly relationship looks like. I used to buy into that picture and thought not only I had to be perfect before finding love, but my “husband” had to be perfect too.
With a mindset like that, the minute an issue arises, the first thing we know to do is run.
In the Christian world, an issue in dating is taught as a “red flag” and a “this must be a sign that this isn’t God’s best for me“.
If we go into dating with fear and actively LOOKING for red flags, then you will eventually create red flags and miss out on what could become the best for you.
Red flags vs Unmet Expectations.
Now granted, if there is sin involved while you are dating, then girlfriend you need to break it off. Then you need to get before The Lord to repent and shift your focus back to what you know to be true and right.
You know what is toxic and unacceptable in God’s eyes.
If the guy you are interested in isn’t bringing any red flags, then stop trying to create them.
Don’t confuse red flags with unmet expectations. It’s good to have expectations but remember that your “list” will not fully be checked, day one of meeting someone.
Dating God’s way is all about effort.
Many people say it’s hard dating God’s way, but actually it’s not.
Again, it’s all about the effort you put in.
But sadly, many people today are too lazy and too full of themselves to make something work.
If you say you want a godly marriage, then you must be willing to put the work in, whatever that looks like for you and your situation.
Just think about the end goal, and let that be your motivation to a commitment of purity as you journey through dating with the goal of marriage.
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