How Co-sleeping made life with a newborn easier.
“How are you guys sleeping?”
“I bet you guys are missing your sleep.”
“How many hours you get of sleep now?”
“How long does baby sleep at night?”
My reply for questions about sleep is always, we are getting good sleep, no complaints here! It never fails, when I see the shock on people’s faces after they hear my answer. Thank God we are getting great sleep here at the Fitzgerald’s house. The main reason is because we co-sleep … yes, I co-sleep with my baby and it has been the best decision so far.
You must do what works best for you.
One thing I have learned as a new mom is to do what works best for my family. I wanted to make the transition of having a newborn in our home as easy as possible on both myself and my newborn. Some people may look down on my decision and throw their judgmental and statistical facts at me, but I know what I’m doing and it’s working for me. You’d be surprised at how many moms co-sleep but will never admit due to what others may think. Like with breastfeeding, it may work for most but there are a few who can’t and then there are some who simply choose not to and will get judgement for their decision. It’s a sad day when there are so many judgments upon new mothers from other moms; most come from other new moms as if they’ve been mothering for years. If it’s not illegal or putting lives at risk, people need to mind their own family business and focus on their own parenting styles.
Deciding to co-sleep.
Now, was co-sleeping my number one plan? Absolutely not, I mean we have a bassinet that I made my dad run out and get the day after Liam was born. Do I plan to co-sleep forever? No, not really, plus my husband would not allow that. I will however continue until I feel Liam is ready to sleep on his own and I’m okay and ready to experience interrupted sleep as he gets adjusted. I am, however, planning on maybe at 6 months transitioning him to his bassinet. Until then, I’ll place him in there randomly when he falls asleep during the day to get him used to it.
“Well what about your husband? How does he feel?”
My husband is ready to transition Liam into his own bed. My husband also is enjoying his good nights of rest. We have agreed on a certain point when we will stop but for now, Liam is perfectly fine sleeping next to me. If Liam is fussy in the middle of the night and cues that he’s hungry, my husband will take him, feed him, and let Liam sleep with him. Our bed is big enough to accommodate us 3 with more than enough space in between. My husband and I practice safe co-sleeping habits and I always pray over him for protection as we are sleeping.
Your parenting style may be different from the “norm” and your neighbor, but that isn’t to say anyone’s style is better than the other. There is no perfect way to be a mom. Don’t feel ashamed or like you’re a bad mom if you’ve decided to co-sleep; especially in the beginning. You’ll eventually feel comfortable enough to let them sleep in their own bed at some point. Until then enjoy your good sleep; that is, it you’re even able to get any still (lol).
Becoming a new parent is not easy at all. It’s a learning process probably every single day. Eventually you learn how to manage the change and you’ll begin doing what works for your household confidently.
So, let’s talk … as a mom, have you ever co-slept with your child? If so, have you received backlash for it? Does it help with getting sleep?
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